For every strong, confident woman who embraces her creativity and shares her story, there are untold numbers more who stay hidden in the shadows. The reasons are many, ranging from extreme shyness to outright abuse, with many stops along the way. The one thing they all have in common is a lack of self-confidence and a strong belief they don’t have anything to contribute.
How do I know this?
This was me for most of my life.
Like so many women don’t live up to their full potential because of confidence issues, I didn’t believe I was worthy of success, happiness or even love.
When you don’t believe in yourself, and your self-esteem is in the gutter, it’s really hard to see just how you could be worthy of love, happiness, or success. After all, who can love you when you can’t even love yourself?
I know it’s hard to change the belief that you are not worthy. Especially if you’ve been in a relationship where there was emotional or physical abuse. It’s hard to believe in yourself when the person who was supposed to love, cherish and protect instead spent their time breaking you down and destroying your self-esteem. It took me over ten years to recover to the point where I wanted to even try to go out and face the world. Writing an article like this to tell you about it would have been unthinkable before now.
What I’ve come to realize is that self-confidence is a choice, and when your confidence is at a healthy level your self-esteem is too, and everything seems to flow so much more smoothly in your life. You are happier, healthier, and more able to live life to the full potential you were meant to.
When you choose to use your confidence, you get more of it. In that way it’s like any other skill. But in other ways it’s so much more, because having it opens up many doors for you that you might not even consider when you’re feeling unconfident.
For myself, I find that when I write about confidence I feel more confident. I’m still very much a work in progress on this front, and so you won’t find any high and mighty “I know it all” stuff here, because frankly, I don’t know it all. I’m still learning to be more confident too, but I’m willing to share what I learn with you.
Through these blog posts, podcasts, videos and courses I’ll share with you how I’m rebuilding my confidence, and how you can build yours up too. When you’re ready, I want to hear your story too. And I’d be willing to bet there’s someone else out there who really needs to hear what you have to say. Someone told me once that we owe it to the world to share our stories, because we never know whose light at the end of the tunnel we will be.
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