Believing in yourself starts with having a reasonably healthy sense of self-esteem. How you see yourself is the most important factor in building up your self-belief. What do you see when you take a close look at yourself? Is it positive or negative?
When you have low self-esteem, you tend to see yourself in a negative light, and it’s easy to fixate on your flaws. But you don’t have to let low self-esteem destroy your confidence. When you build up your self-esteem, you are also building your self-confidence.
Here are three simple steps you can take to start building up your self-esteem today.
Let go of the past.
The past can be like a broken record playing the same things over and over again, especially for people with low self-esteem. There is a tendency to replay past mistakes again and again wishing things were different. All this does is keep you stuck in a holding pattern, unable to move forward or see yourself in a different light. Even though you know you can’t change the past, it’s hard to move on when you keep dwelling on it.
The first step toward increasing your self-esteem is to forgive yourself and let go of mistakes. One way you could do this is by journaling about your mistake and destroying the pages when you’re finished. And the next time you’re tempted to relive your mistakes, remind yourself that those pages of your life are gone and that today’s a new day.
Do what makes you happy.
Low self-esteem can be a dream-stealer. You may be stuck at a job you hate because you don’t believe in yourself enough to go after what you truly want.
Building up your self-esteem can help you find work that you’ll enjoy. Start by looking at your current job. What do you enjoy? What areas do you shine in? If you’re not sure of the answers, try asking your boss these questions or look at your old job reviews for answers.
If you are in a job you hate and you can’t leave just yet, do things you enjoy in your free time. Pick up an old hobby or look for a new one. This is a simple way to discover talents and abilities that you didn’t know you had.
Finish a project you really care about.
Focus on what you’re naturally drawn to. What makes you happiest when you’re doing it? Maybe you’re crafty and can knit blankets. Maybe you love creating new recipes in your kitchen. When you focus on finishing projects you enjoy, your self-esteem will slowly increase. You’ll start to feel better about yourself and have the energy to do even more of the things you love.
When it comes to building up your self-esteem, understand that it’s a gradual process. Concentrate on taking small steps toward your goals and be kind to yourself when you make a mistake.
NOTE: This is Part 1 of a 5-part series on believing in yourself and building self-confidence.
Part 1 – Believing In Yourself – The First Step To Building More Confidence (You are here)
Part 2 – Believing in Yourself – What Stops You?
Part 3 – Believing in Yourself – How Does Your Outer World Affect Your Self-Esteem?
Part 4 – Believing In Yourself – How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk
Part 5 – Believing In Yourself – Creating a Future You Can Believe In